A woman has shamed her ‘hobosexual’ online dating match for trying to set up a date with her just so he had a place to crash.
FYI, a hobosexual is someone who dates or has sex with people so they have a place to sleep – Chad from season two of Insecure is a prime example.
Jackie Cameron, 38, encountered her first hobosexual when setting up a date with a man called Elliott, who implied she was a golddigger for rejecting him.
Jackie met Elliott on a 12-hour deep sea fishing boat trip, and they texted for the next few days.
Elliott offered to cook Jackie dinner, inviting himself over with the hope of having a place to stay for the night. He then revealed that he’d planned this ‘date’ because he had nowhere to sleep.
After realising he wasn’t joking, Jackie turned the man down on the basis that she couldn’t be responsible for taking care of him.
He responded: ‘Such is women. Gimme gimme.’
Jackie shared screenshots of the exchange online, where she was flooded with comments telling Jackie that she’d interacted with a hobosexual.
Jackie, from Bakersfield in California, US, said: ‘A lot of people have used the term ‘hobosexual’ which is apparently an urban term for a person who gets into a relationship to have a place to stay.
‘I think it’s pretty accurate. I think he absolutely would have been in a relationship with me to have a place to stay.
‘He was really nice and he was very charming on the boat. He was very sweet about everything and very well-mannered and spoken. He wasn’t pushy or aggressive but he was around.
‘If I sat down, he’d be around. But I’m glad I stayed firm, because someone else might have felt sorry for him and let him stay the night.
‘It felt bad – it did knock my confidence for a bit. It felt like this guy was just hitting on me to have a place to stay and be comfortable.
‘But then I realised that’s more about him than me. He would have done it to anyone. This is literally just the way he lives his life.
‘I think if he had come around it would have been a tense situation. It’s probably the safest thing to have not let him ever come over. He doesn’t know where I live, thankfully.’
The messages first start with a flirty offer from Elliott of cooking Jackie dinner, but she politely declined as she was busy with a friend already.
Elliott then said: ‘Let me know if you change your mind. I’m looking for somewhere to sleep tonight.
‘I stay anywhere I can. I don’t like staying at my parents, I only stay there so I can give my daughter a good life and she isn’t around any creepers.
‘I don’t have anywhere to stay tonight, that’s why I offered to cook for you lol.
‘I stayed at my friend’s house last night because she was out of town, but I think she comes back tonight and I don’t like to intrude. I’ll probably stay in a motel tonight.’
Jackie was initially sympathetic but decided that the man was not in a place to start a relationship, so called it off – telling him he was not ‘stable’ and she ‘couldn’t take care’ of him.
Jackie said: ‘So like I said before, I’m not looking for a [friends with benefits] thing and honestly you’re not stable so I don’t really see a relationship as being a possibility for us.
‘I appreciate your honesty but I can’t help take care of anyone. I’m sorry your in a tough situation [sic]. We can be friends and I know that isn’t much of what you’re looking for right now.’
When the man questioned why he wasn’t stable, Jackie said: ‘I mean, you don’t have anywhere to live and no job. I’m not trying to be a b****.
I’m just saying you’re not really in a place to pursue a relationship which is what I’m looking for.”
Elliott then said: ‘You have to have a house and a job to have a relationship? I guess I thought maybe you like me for me not what I could provide you.
‘Such is women. Gimme gimme. I guess I should have been more blunt, that’s my fault.
‘I’m the stay-at-home dad type…if that doesn’t vibe with you I totally get it. No worries.’
Jackie, who is a dog trainer, said: ‘I was really surprised getting these messages that he was saying this stuff. For a while I wondered if he was kidding. I was shocked at what he came out with.
‘When he told me he was the single dad type I blocked him from my phone straight away. I couldn’t handle it anymore.
‘I was trying to be nice to him because where I fish is an open party boat that is open to the public, so I figured I might run into him again.
I was trying to be nice so I wouldn’t have an issue on a 12-hour boat trip with some guy I rejected poorly.
‘But I was pretty floored by his responses – and also that he thought I was trying to get something from him.
‘I just wanted him to be able to match what I have going on in my life. Relationships are about complimenting each other and lifting each other up.
‘It’s about both having a good foundation and going on from there.’
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