Sex barely lasts two minutes and I can see my girlfriend is disappointed

DEIDRE SAYS: WHAT can I do to last longer in bed?

I am a 29-year-old guy and have had several sexual partners but I can never hold back during penetrative sex.

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It barely lasts two minutes but this doesn’t happen when I pleasure myself.

Now it is starting to cause problems with my new girlfriend.

She is 27 and tends not to reach orgasm during intercourse, though I help her finish afterwards.

She says it’s OK but I can see in her face that she is disappointed and is getting fed up with me.

I would like to be able to make love for half an hour, like other men.

Is there anything I can do to achieve this?

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DEIDRE SAYS: There are ways to overcome premature ejaculation, which is a common enough problem.

If you do not have this problem when you masturbate, it is almost certainly psychological.

Sex starts in your head, so the more you worry about this, the more likely it is to happen.

I am sending you my support pack Lasting Longer, which features self-help steps such as distraction techniques.

Most women do not orgasm through penetration alone, so make sure you have lots of foreplay together before sex.