Now I’ve found out I’m pregnant by my new man after only three months of dating.
I’d been with my husband for five years when he left me. We’d been married for only 18 months and our baby girl was just six months old.
My husband, 31, has a low sperm count so we had three rounds of IVF before I got pregnant.
He’s a responsible dad. He pays maintenance and has regular contact with our daughter, but he says he fell out of love with me.
I think the stress of the IVF made him stop trying to make our relationship work.
I’m 27 now and, although I’ve met some great friends through my baby classes, I was sitting in night after night with my baby and getting fed up.
My mum encouraged me to go out while she babysat, so I registered on a dating site and met this lovely guy who is 31. We have fun together, going out for meals and to the cinema and sometimes we go back to his place for sex.
He hasn’t met my daughter — I was leaving that until we were more established. She is only 11 months now so I didn’t want her getting confused.
I’ve now found out that I’m pregnant again. My new boyfriend came round last night when my daughter was in bed. He could tell I wasn’t myself. I burst into tears and blurted it out. He was lovely, saying, “Hey, don’t worry. It’s fantastic news. You can move out of here and in with me.”
He’s got his own house and a well-paid job so on paper it sounds amazing. But I can’t help feeling scared.
If things don’t work out I’ll be a mum with two children under two by different dads.
And I don’t know how I’m going to tell my ex.
After years of thinking I couldn’t get pregnant, I didn’t think it could happen so easily. My ex-husband will feel so humiliated.
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