I'm now only getting a few hours between sleep to make memories with my kids, says Deborah James

MAKING memories is important for Dame Deborah James.

The Sun writer was moved to at-home hospice care last month and has been spending time with her family and friends.

In a heartfelt Instagram post, the mum-of-two revealed that it's getting harder to have that all important quality time.

Taking to social media, she said: "Making memories can be hard when you are dying! Oh the pressure!.

"I’m now only getting some very grabbed hours between the sleeping and side effects."

Debs, who is mum to Eloise 12, and Hugo, 14, said she is becoming less able to leave the house due to her condition.

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One last sleepover with my daughter helped me smile, says Deborah James

Deborah James’ family give update as she has one last girly sleepover

In order to put a smile on her face, her sister Sarah organised a girly sleepover for the family.

Dame Debs said she had been feeling awful after a bad day, so hadn't watched any of the party being set up and had been crying over leaking drains next door.

"But with the help of my sister and bro, managed to calm down and then they wheeled me into the room last night and yes I cried over the fairy lights! Good tears! It was just perfect!

"I went from staying in my wheelchair to ending up everyone helping to get me into an actual tee pee to watch Cinderella with the gang and sit there like a 5 year old with a huge Cheshire Cat smile on my face next to my daughter and sister!"

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Deborah was first diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer in 2016.

Since then she has been an avid campaigner, raising awareness of the signs and symptoms of the condition.

Treatment from her team at the Royal Marsden meant she was able to make five years of precious memories with her children.

In recent weeks she has had a rose named after her, launched a fashion collection and even had her very own Lego mini-me sent to her.

While she has raised hundreds of thousands of pounds through these partnerships, her biggest passion and mission to date is the BowelBabe fund.

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The signs of bowel cancer you need to know – remember BOWEL

  1. B:Bleeding

There are several possible causes of bleeding from your bottom, of blood in your poo.

Bright red blood could come from swollen blood vessels, haemorrhoids or piles, in your back passage.

Dark red or black blood could come from your bowel or stomach.

Blood in your stools is one of the key signs of bowel cancer, so it’s important to mention it to your doctor so they can investigate.

2. O: Obvious change in loo habits

It’s important to tell your GP if you have noticed any changes in your bowel habits, that lasts three weeks or longer.

It’s especially important if you have also noticed signs of blood in your poo.

You might notice you need to go to the loo more often, you might have looser stools or feel like you’re not going enough or fully emptying your bowels.

Don’t be embarrassed, your GP will have heard a lot worse! Speak up and get it checked.

3. W: Weight loss

This is less common than the other symptoms, but an important one to be aware of. If you’ve lost weight and don’t really know why, it’s worth mentioning to your GP.

You may not feel like eating, feel sick, bloated and not hungry.

4. E: Extreme tiredness

Bowel cancer that causes bleeding can cause a lack of iron in the body – anaemia. If you develop anaemia you’re likely to feel tired and your skin might look pale.

5. L: Lump or pain

As with lots of other forms of cancer, a lump or pain can be a sign of bowel cancer.

It’s most likely you’ll notice a pain or lump in your stomach or back passage.

See your GP if it doesn’t go away, or if it affects how you eat or sleep

The podcaster has so far raised over £6.6million for charities such as Cancer Research UK (CRUK), Bowel Cancer UK and the Royal Marsden.

As she looks back on all she has achieved, she said it's the five years of additional memories that she is clinging onto – which she knows would not have been possible without her amazing team.

She previously told The Sun: "My story isn’t one of sadness, it’s a celebration of getting to live for five years with incurable cancer, I’ve been so lucky.

"I owe my five years to the team at The Royal Marsden who told me they would throw the kitchen sink at my cancer, and never gave up.

"In my final days, I am so grateful to have the peace of knowing that we tried everything, they left no stone unturned.

"They gave me precious more time with my husband, my children and my family, and for that we will all be forever grateful.

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