For a third of women, sex never ends with the big ‘O’

End the bedroom pleasure gap: For a third of women, sex never ends with the big ‘O’ — yet they often blame themselves, ROWAN PELLING says it’s high time to demand better between the sheets

  • Studies show 65% of women have orgasms during sex compared to 95% of men 
  • Rowan Pelling who spent decades researching sex explored ‘the orgasm gap’ 
  • She says there’s no biological reason women should experience less pleasure
  • She spoke to women whose relationships have been affected by their sex life 
  • Lucy Litwack argues women should demand a voice in the bedroom
  • She says lack of respect in the bedroom can lead to lack of respect in other areas
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The night I had sex for the first time I was 20. The man I desired and trusted enough for this nerve-racking rite of passage was kind, sensitive and ten years older.

I knew that ecstasy wasn’t guaranteed, but thought someone with experience would give me a better chance of having a pleasurable time.

In the event, I preferred the kissing part of the evening to the sex bit, and was left none the wiser about how you achieved an orgasm with another human being. He had an orgasm, of course. Men generally do, when they’re under 40 and not immobilised by drink. And this was pretty much the pattern my sex life took for the next two years, although my next few liaisons were with fellow students my own age.

I’d known for a few years how to experience pleasure in private, but I had no idea how to share that knowledge in moments of intimacy, or whether doing so would seem presumptuous. (I would have been amazed if someone had told me that by the time I was 28 I’d be editing an erotic magazine, and would spend two decades researching, writing and talking about sex and relationships.)


Rowan Pelling (pictured) explored why heterosexual women have less pleasure than their male counterparts during sex – in a phenomenon dubbed ‘the orgasm gap’

My initiation into the inequalities of physical intimacy is such a common occurrence that I imagine most women reading this article will be nodding in recognition. And it’s not just early sexual experiences that often leave us unsatisfied; even later in life, there is a looming gap between men’s and women’s likelihood of achieving climax in any given encounter.

Indeed, it’s a phenomenon that has been dubbed ‘the orgasm gap’ — and it is rightly receiving renewed attention after recent research published by the Kinsey Institute, which researches sexual behaviour, revealed that only 65 per cent of heterosexual women ‘usually or always’ orgasm during sex, compared to 95 per cent of men. The issue has been seized upon by Labour MP Jess Phillips who is now calling for better sex education in schools.

Until recently, this inequality of pleasure was widely regarded as the natural order of things. It was assumed women were less libidinous than men, and if they didn’t climax were either uninterested or (dread word) ‘frigid’.

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But given women have made great strides towards equality in so many areas of life, it seems strange that in the bedroom we are still missing out. Lucy Litwack, a force for women’s sexual empowerment since opening up market erotic emporium Coco de Mer in 2001, agrees with Jess Phillips that sex education is ‘crucial to closing the gap’.

‘A lack of respect for women’s pleasure leads to a lack of respect in other aspects of life,’ says Litwack. ‘We’ve raised a generation of girls to have a voice, take control, and expect equality. Now it’s time to demand the same in the bedroom.’

Currently only local authority schools have to teach sex education as part of the curriculum, and much of what’s actually taught — often by red-faced teachers — concerns the male orgasm and the attendant dangers of being made ill or pregnant.

It’s sadly true that women are too often ill-informed about their erogenous zones.

Still, there’s no biological reason women should experience less pleasure — in fact it’s the opposite. The clitoris contains 8,000 nerve endings, twice as many as the head of the penis, so a woman is capable of extraordinary levels of sensation.


Author Isabel Losada, says her young husband assumed she was ‘broken’ in some way after she began focusing on taking pleasure in his pleasure (file image)

When young women do try to work out what they enjoy, our cultural stereotypes about sex are often less than helpful. Social taboos against sexually active women mean girls often feel more shame than boys about exploring their developing bodies. Meanwhile, we tend to focus on penetrative sex, often neglecting other ways of achieving orgasm that may suit women better.

I’ve never forgotten watching a TV drama called Getting Hurt in 1998 (written by Andrew Davies, the man who sexed up Pride And Prejudice), which showed a scene where a lawyer has sex with a waitress. It started conventionally enough: the man gasping as he reached orgasm.

But what happened next was so rare I gaped. The man actually asked his lover if she was satisfied and she responded by guiding his hand down her body. In the 20 years since, I can count on one hand the screen sex scenes I’ve watched that acknowledge the idea women may need something more than intercourse to reach the peak of pleasure.

The suggestion tends to be that if you’re in love or lust, you should achieve simultaneous orgasms effortlessly. This myth persists despite a 1976 finding, by respected researcher Shere Hite, that 70 per cent of women won’t generally orgasm from penetrative sex alone.

The result of this cultural confusion is that it takes many women decades to realise there is an orgasm gap in their lives — and that actually, they would quite like to change that.

Among them is author Isabel Losada, who says: ‘I was 20 when I met my husband. We had sex all the time, but I just took pleasure in his pleasure — and he took pleasure in his pleasure, too.

‘My young husband assumed that I was “broken” in some way, and I thought the same. Neither of us knew any better. I never thought about seeing a doctor or even reading a book about sex. What a disaster — and how tragically common. We were both really fortunate that the marriage ended.’

After the breakdown of her seven-year marriage, Isabel met a new partner who has helped her to learn more about her body. Her memoir, Sensation: Adventures In Sex, Love And Laughter, charts their experiments with workshops, tantric meditation and books. She explains: ‘The main problem is women assuming, as I did, that they are broken, and sinking into despair rather than doing anything about it.


Monique Roffey, 53, believed her body didn’t ‘work’ after she struggled to find pleasure with men in her 20s (file image)

‘I’m a confident woman, but in the bedroom with a man I loved, I had no idea how to communicate. This process had to be learnt slowly and carefully. I’m afraid many women are guilty of expecting men to be psychic and know how to please us — even when we don’t know ourselves.

‘And on the other hand, men, please don’t ask women who are uncertain in bed, “What do you want me to do?” Often we don’t know, or will be afraid to answer that question honestly. Instead, ask simple yes or no questions to help your partner learn to communicate.’

For Monique Roffey, ignorance and shame about her sexuality were made worse by a partner who had little interest in her pleasure. The 53-year-old explains: ‘When I was first sexually active in my 20s, I knew I wasn’t experiencing the big, mutual, male-female orgasm I’d seen in Hollywood movies and on TV. I remember thinking that my body didn’t seem to “work”, and I felt so much shame that I kept quiet.

‘Then in my 30s I had a long-term relationship with a man who told me none of the other women he’d slept with had had this issue. That made things worse — our sex life ground to a halt, and eventually the relationship ended.’

Newly single, Monique started to experiment with new forms of stimulation, a process she describes in her memoir With The Kisses Of His Mouth. She says her first truly satisfying orgasm with a sexual partner, in her early 40s, left her with an overwhelming sense of relief. ‘The pleasure was immense and the good feeling lasted for days. And it happened with no intercourse at all — I learned that I like to be touched, stroked and massaged.’ In addition to physical sensations, a sexual imbalance in a relationship can have far-reaching emotional repercussions.


Catherine, 57, says she didn’t believe in the possibility of making love for hours and climaxing multiple times until she had a mid-like awakening (file image)

Catherine, 57, a friend of mine, describes her first marriage as ‘the Gobi Desert of lonely’. Fairly innocent when she wed aged 28, she says her husband made her feel unattractive. Although she did have occasional orgasms, she says: ‘They weren’t an every time occurrence, like his were. Then, after we had kids, our sex life dwindled and I was celibate for almost seven years. And then for another five years after the divorce. My generation still feels shame about sex at a very deep level, so even touching myself felt wrong.’ But Catherine experienced a mid-life awakening three years ago, when a younger man flirted with her at a party and they shared a kiss. It went no further but she says the experience made her feel like ‘Sleeping Beauty’ waking up, and she began to wonder again about her sexuality.

‘I thought if one younger man liked me, others might, too,’ she says. ‘So I tried online dating, and met a man in his early 30s. With him, I discovered that you could make love for hours, and climax multiple times, which I had never believed when I read it in books!

‘He later met a lovely woman his own age — but I’m forever grateful for that realisation.’

The pleasure gap is particularly acute between young men and women. One study in the U.S. found only 39 per cent of the women regularly climaxed, compared to 91 per cent of the men.

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Research from 2012 reported that young men are less likely to spend time and effort trying to gratify their sexual partners when encounters are fleeting, meaning young women may actually be having fewer orgasms as a result of our modern casual sex culture. Stephanie Alys, 28, may well speak for her generation when she says: ‘The best sex I’ve ever had has been when both partners truly care about each other’s pleasure and feel like they can communicate their needs. I also think it’s important to give yourself enough time and headspace — sometimes it takes a while to get there!’

Stephanie, who now works for MysteryVibe, a sex technology company aimed at women, believes our society is still wary of teaching young people how to take pleasure in sex. ‘I was never taught in school about the clitoris, for example. As a result it took me a while to feel comfortable and confident in my body.’

Of course, renewed interest in the orgasm gap doesn’t mean we should reduce sex to a passionless pursuit of an equal number of orgasms. Instead, sex expert Nichi Hodgson suggests we should be using the term ‘pleasure gap’.


Suzanne Portnoy, 57, warns against trying to hit specific targets in the bedroom and claims too much emphasis is put on orgasms (file image)

‘Focusing on matching like-for-like does everyone a disservice in my opinion,’ she says. ‘It’s the experience, not the outcome, that’s important.’ In later life, this philosophy may be especially relevant. Learning to focus on shared sensuality rather than chasing a joint climax can strengthen relationships at any age.

Suzanne Portnoy and Rose Rouse are co-founders of the website Advantages of Age. Rose, 65, says she and her 75-year-old partner Asanga try not to worry about hitting a specific target in the bedroom. Instead, she explains: ‘We set aside time for activities like having a bath together, undressing each other slowly, or sensual massage.’

Suzanne, 57, adds: ‘Far too much emphasis is put on orgasms. Since hitting the menopause, I’ve noticed a shift in my libido. If I want to reach orgasm then I do, but if it only happens for one of us that’s fine, too.’

Although the pleasure gap seems to persist regardless of age or stage in life, there is one group of women who don’t experience it. The Kinsey Institute research on the orgasm gap also asked gay men and women how often they climaxed during sex. Some 86 per cent of gay women said it was almost always — perhaps because women are better placed to understand each other’s bodies.

What’s clear is that men of all ages are often in as urgent need of good sex education as women. Far too many get their sexual education from pornography.

Next year, though, welcome change is coming: all secondary schools will have to teach sex education, and internet issues must be covered for the first time, from sexting to pornography.

In the meantime, we all need to be more communicative when it comes to sexual satisfaction.


Nutritionist Maryon Stewart, advises changing your diet to include wholesome foods and those with naturally occurring oestrogen to boost libido (file image)

When I started a conversation about the orgasm gap on my Facebook page, I was startled by how many men chipped in.

One male friend wisely said: ‘Isn’t good sex education, for men of any age, just about asking what works for the particular woman?’

Another messaged to say he’d dated women who would dissolve in ecstasy if you gently touched their earlobe — and others who needed two hours’ foreplay to climax. Several pointed out it was hard to help a woman have an orgasm if she had no clue how to get there herself.

Men and women alike agreed that the main hurdle to be overcome wasn’t a woman’s particular needs or preferences, but her ability to clearly communicate them.

The good news is that it’s never too late to start.

The right food really can give libido a lift 

One way women can boost their libido is by changing their diet, writes nutritionist MARYON STEWART.

In my latest survey of over 1,000 women, 79 per cent reported difficulty having an orgasm.

Reduced libido was experienced by 93 per cent and 80 per cent admitted having a lack of sensation during intercourse, so it’s not too surprising women shy away from sex. When they are in what I call ‘economy mode’ due to low levels of nutrients it’s hard to feel sexy.

Falling levels of oestrogen in mid-life make it particularly difficult to contemplate a physical relationship.

But it’s possible to rekindle libido and put satisfying sex back on the menu just by changing your diet.

  • Eat wholesome food little and often so that you have a constant supply of good nutrients going through to your brain and nervous system. 
  • Consume food containing naturally occurring oestrogen. Soya products, linseeds and Promensil, the standardised red clover pills, are all good.
  • Pharma Nord Sea Buckthorn Oil Omega 7 SBA24 can help heal and restore vaginal tissues. In the short term, try using a natural lubricant like YES organic moisturiser.
  • Boost Libido by taking Lady Prelox, a natural and scientifically supported product containing Pine Bark and a range of bioactive ingredients to support circulation and sensation. Studies on Lady Prelox show it improved sexual desire, arousal and ability to orgasm.
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ABC announces return dates for 'American Idol' while 'DWTS' goes dark

ABC revealed the return dates for most of its important franchises today, including a comeback for American Idol and the night we’ll see Meredith Grey again.

There are also plenty of new shows to vie for your attention — The Goldbergs‘ spinoff Schooled and Whiskey Cavalier starring Scandal alum Scott Foley, among them. But not among the midseason offerings is another season of Dancing with the Stars  since Idol mostly fills the bill. (Last season, though, ABC ran a shortened, four-week season featuring athletes).

Here is the network’s schedule that starts up in the new year:

FRIDAY, JAN. 4

8:00-8:30 p.m.              Fresh Off the Boat

8:30-9:00 p.m.              Speechless

9:00-11:00 p.m.            20/20 (new time slot)

SUNDAY, JAN. 6

7:00-9:00 p.m.              America’s Funniest Home Videos 

9:00-11:00 p.m.            Shark Tank (new time)

TUESDAY, JAN. 8

8:00-8:30 p.m.              The Conners

8:30-9:00 p.m.              The Kids Are Alright

9:00-9:30 p.m.              black-ish

9:30-10:00 p.m.            Splitting Up Together

10:00-11:00 p.m.          The Rookie

WEDNESDAY, JAN. 9

8:00-8:30 p.m.              The Goldbergs

8:30-9:00 p.m.              Schooled (series premiere)

9:00-9:30 p.m.              Modern Family

9:30-10:00 p.m.            Single Parents

10:00-11:00 p.m.          Match Game

THURSDAY, JAN. 17

8:00-9:01 p.m.              Grey’s Anatomy

9:01-10:00 p.m.            A Million Little Things (new day and time)

10:00-11:00 p.m.          How to Get Away with Murder

TUESDAY, FEB. 5

8:00-8:30 p.m.             American Housewife (new day and time)

 WEDNESDAY, FEB. 27

10:00-11:00 p.m.          Whiskey Cavalier (series premiere)

SUNDAY, MARCH 3

7:00-8:00 p.m.              America’s Funniest Home Videos

8:00-10:01 p.m.            American Idol (season premiere)

10:01-11:00 p.m.          Shark Tank

THURSDAY, MARCH 7

9:01-10:00 p.m.            Station 19

10:00-11:00 p.m.          For The People (season premiere)

MONDAY, MARCH 18

10:00-11:00 p.m.          The Fix (series premiere)

MONDAY, JUNE 17

10:00-11:00 p.m.          Grand Hotel (series premiere)

Here are the network descriptions of the new shows:

THE FIX

Attorney and author Marcia Clark co-writes and executive produces a new legal drama about Maya Travis, an L.A. district attorney who suffers a devastating defeat when prosecuting an A-list actor for double murder. With her high-profile career derailed, she flees for a quieter life in Washington. Eight years later when this same celebrity is under suspicion for another murder, Maya Travis is lured back to the DA’s office for another chance at justice. This legal thriller is executive produced/co-written by Clark, Liz Craft, and Sarah Fain, and is from Mandeville TV and ABC Studios. The Fix stars Robin Tunney as Maya Travis, Adam Rayner as Matthew Collier, Merrin Dungey as CJ, Breckin Meyer as Alan Wiest, Marc Blucas as Riv, Mouzam Makkar as Loni Kampoor, Alex Saxon as Gabriel Johnson, with Scott Cohen as Ezra Wolf, and Adewale Akinnouye-Agbaje as Sevvy Johnson.

GRAND HOTEL

Eva Longoria executive produces this bold, provocative drama set at the last family-owned hotel in multicultural Miami Beach. Charismatic Santiago Mendoza owns the hotel, while his glamorous second wife, Gigi, and their adult children enjoy the spoils of success. The hotel’s loyal staff round out a contemporary, fresh take on an upstairs/downstairs story. Wealthy and beautiful guests bask in luxury, but scandals, escalating debt and explosive secrets hide beneath the picture-perfect exterior. The show is based on the Spanish series. The series stars Demian Bichir as Santiago Mendoza, Roselyn Sanchez as Gigi Mendoza, Denyse Tontz as Alicia Mendoza, Bryan Craig as Javi Mendoza, Wendy Raquel Robinson as Mrs. P, Lincoln Younes as Danny, Shalim Ortiz as Mateo, Anne Winters as Ingrid, Chris Warren as Jason, Feliz Ramirez as Carolina, and Justina Adorno as Yoli.

WHISKEY CAVALIER

Whiskey Cavalier is a high-octane, hour-long action dramedy that follows the adventures of tough but tender FBI super-agent Will Chase (codename: “Whiskey Cavalier”), played by Scott Foley. Following an emotional breakup, Chase is assigned to work with badass CIA operative Francesca “Frankie” Trowbridge (codename: “Fiery Tribune”), played by Lauren Cohan. Together, they lead an inter-agency team of flawed, funny and heroic spies who periodically save the world (and each other) while navigating the rocky roads of friendship, romance, and office politics. The series is from writer/executive producer Dave Hemingson and executive producer Bill Lawrence with Warner Bros. Television. The series stars Scott Foley as Will Chase, Lauren Cohan as Francesca “Frankie” Trowbridge, Ana Ortiz as Susan Sampson, Tyler James Williams as Edgar Standish, and Vir Das as Jai Datta.

SCHOOLED

This spinoff of the hit series The Goldbergs will be set in 1990-something and follow the hilarious teachers of William Penn Academy — led by Tim Meadows (Principal Glascott), Bryan Callen (Coach Mellor), and AJ Michalka (Lainey Lewis) — who, despite their eccentricities and crazy personal lives, are heroes to their students. Story by Marc Firek and Adam F. Goldberg. Teleplay by Marc Firek. The series is from Sony Pictures Television and ABC Studios. Adam F. Goldberg, Doug Robinson, and Marc Firek are executive producers.

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Books are ideal gifts for fussy friends — here's a list of the perfect books to buy your mates this Christmas

Somewhere, there is a book with their name on it. We guarantee it.

THE MUSIC-LOVING TEEN

I Was Born For This by Alice Oseman, HarperCollins, £7.99: Pals Angel and Juliet live for pop outfit The Ark and will see their favourite band no matter what.

When The Ark’s frontman Jimmy meets Angel, they both learn how life can change in the blink of an eye.

FOR THE LITTLE ONE

The Snowman: Inspired By The Original Story By Raymond Briggs by Michael Morpurgo, Puffin, £12.99: It is 40 years since Raymond Briggs created his much-loved picture book.

The former Children’s Laureate’s lovely new version adds to the magic.

THE THRILL-SEEKER

Anatomy Of A Scandal by Sarah Vaughan, Simon & Schuster, £12.99: Barrister Kate is determined to prove that James Whitehouse – junior Government minister and the PM’s best mate – is guilty of rape.

A taut and tense tale that is not for the fainthearted.

THE FOODIE

Great British Bake Off: Get Baking For Friends & Family by The Bake Off Team, £20, Sphere: Fire up the cook in your family with sweet and savoury treats from Paul Hollywood, Prue Leith and the series eight and nine bakers. The recipes are easy but yummy.

FOR THE FEMALE BOSS

Becoming by Michelle Obama, Viking, £25: Born in 1964 to very humble beginnings, the former US First Lady opens up about her upbringing, her time in the White House and being a mother.

Her strength and determination shine through in what is an honest and moving memoir that gives some great insights into being the First Lady.

THE BEST MATE

Lush: A True Story, Soaked In Gin by Gabrielle Fernie, Sphere, £8.99: For the friend whose cackle you can hear down the street. In this laugh riot, best friends Gabby and Emma have grown up together.

When Emma reveals she is getting married, it dawns on Gabby she must grow up herself once and for all. Hilarious and debauched.

THE SENTIMENTAL ONE

An Island Christmas by Jenny Colgan, Sphere, £12.99: If your best friend loves a rom-com and has read PS I Love You more times than they can count, they will love this too.

Flora is pregnant and doesn’t know how to tell her partner Joel. Will he ever be ready to be a dad? Or is he too damaged by his early years? Heartwarming.

FOR ARMCHAIR DETECTIVES

The Stranger Diaries by Elly Griffiths, Quercus, £12.99: Clare loves Gothic writer R.M. Holland.

When her friend and colleague Ella is murdered, Clare becomes convinced that Holland’s work somehow holds the key.

A spooky, compelling tale that is perfect for fans of Agatha Christie and any good murder mystery.

THE PUB QUIZ PAL

Infinity In The Palm Of Your Hand: Fifty Wonders That Reveal An Extraordinary Universe by Marcus Chown, Michael O’Mara Books, £14.99: The author explores the science behind 50 stunning facts, including how humans are one-third mushroom to what would happen if the sun were made of bananas. Mind-expanding stuff.


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Dyson for kids is being resold for DOUBLE the price on eBay as shoppers search for must-have Christmas present

Parents are starting bidding wars on the auction website over the popular replica toy, which really works.

Before it sold out, the must-have Christmas present cost £22.99 from online shop Very, or £28.99 from Littlewoods.

But now parents are paying up to double that on eBay to try and get their hands on the popular gadget.

The latest sale was today after 18 people bid on the toy online, pushing the price up to £53.

The Cordless Vacuum toy is an exact replica of Dyson's latest handheld DC59 model – and it really cleans.

The replica vacuum is made by toy company Casdon, not Dyson and can suck up dust and fluff – so your child really will be helping with the housework if you buy one.

If you don't want to take part in a bidding war to get your hands on one of the toys, then Amazon has a very similar Dyson replica in stock.

It's more expensive at £42.99 than Very's original sale price – but it is cheaper than the toys have sold on eBay for.

Other sales have seen the toy go for £50 this week on the auction website.


How to spot fake toys

Stick to shops you know – Buy toys only from recognised outlets to avoid buying counterfeit goods. eBay often has fake toys for sale, so make sure you find out if they have passed safety tests. If you're not sure – don't buy them.

Look at the price – If it's suspiciously cheap and seems like the price is too good to be true then it probably is. Counterfeit items will be much cheaper than the real thing, so if in doubt, avoid.

Check the packaging – Research what the toy's real packaging looks like and watch out for any marks or logos that seem different to the real thing.

Do your own checks – Check for loose hair and small parts, sharp edges and points on toys. If there are any, don't buy it. Do the same checks with larger toys too such as garden swings and slides. Make sure they are robust and are not a strangulation hazard.

Keep an eye out – Even after you've bought a toy, check them regularly for wear and repair or dispose of them where necessary, especially soft toys for under threes.

Seek help – If you are concerned you've bought a fake toy, contact Citizens' Advice.

The Sun has asked Casdon for comment. Dyson declined to comment.

The toy also features "realistic sounds" and a "simulated cyclone action" with moving colourful balls in a clear cylinder.

It can transform from a floor vacuum into a handheld unit, meaning your little one will be able to reach even the tightest of spots.

It also includes an accessible dust compartment, making it easy for parents to empty kids' rubbish collection into the bin.

The toy has racked up great reviews online, with plenty of five-star ratings.

One parent wrote: "I bought this for my son's 3rd birthday. He absolutely loves it… Doesn't stop playing with it. Real sound. And enjoys helping mummy with housework."

If the vacuum cleaner doesn't tickle your fancy, then you can now also buy singing Baby Shark toys for Christmas – if you can handle it.

If you need some last-minute inspiration for Christmas gifts, then last month we revealed the top 12 toys this year drawn up by the Toy Retailers' Association.


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Katie Price latest news for 2018 – all the updates on her this year including children, husband and boyfriends

Here's the latest on what she's been up to including updates on her children, husband and boyfriends…

What has happened to Katie Price in 2018?

Here's everything you need to know about the major events in the former glamour model's life this year…

Bankruptcy

  • July 14 – Katie starts to sell off her farm animals including llamas, rabbits and horses in a bid to save money.
  • Aug 2 – Katie is on the verge of bankruptcy after blowing her £45 million fortune and struggling with £10,ooo a month mortgage repayments.
  • Aug 7 – Katie is given 12 weeks to agree a debt repayment plan with her creditors in order to avoid bankruptcy.
  • Oct 9 – It's reported that Katie "doesnt' care" about bankruptcy and is receiving cash from boyfriend Alex Adderson.
  • Oct 16 – It's suggested that Katie is planning to sell her £2 million Sussex mansion after she's spotted at an Estate Agents.
  • Oct 30 – Katie's bankruptcy hearing is pushed back to Dec 4 after her team submit a last minute IVA proposal.
  • Dec 4 – Katie swerved bankruptcy after tax man accepted plan to repay £22k debt.

Harvey's bullying and trolling petition

  • Jan 24 – Katie announced on Loose Women that her petition to make online bullying a criminal offence would be discussed in the House Of Commons
  • Feb 6 – Katie tells a Commons Committee about the abuse her son Harvey received from online trolls.
  • Feb 21 – The Sun unmask Harvey's troll as 28-year-old Josh Maddison.
  • Oct 14 – Harvey is targeted again in a £50,000 blackmail plot. 

Cocaine, rehab and drink-driving

  • Sept 8 – The Sun on Sunday expose a video of Katie partying in Majorca and rapping "I love coke." 
  • Sept 22 – Katie Price checks into rehab as a day patient at The Priory for PTSD and drink and drug problems.
  • Oct 10 – Katie is arrested for drink-driving after crashing her pink Range Rover in South East London.
  • Oct 11 – Katie moves into rehab as a residential patient following 13 hours in police custody for drink-driving.
  • Oct 12 – Kris Boyson collects Katie from rehab when she walks out having spent less than 24 hours in the facility.
  • Nov 12 – Katie admits that she "self-medicated" with coke during her marriage to Kieran Hayler and can't remember making the rap video.

 

Kris Boyson

  • May 10 – Katie meets Kris on a night out in Chigwell with Love Island's Rykard Jenkins.
  • Aug 25 – The Sun reveal Alex Adderson as the toyboy who Katie was seeing behind Kris' back.
  • Sept 1 – Kris dumps Katie after five months of dating as they "both want different things."
  • Sept 1 – Katie and Alex are pictured on holiday together following her split from Kris.
  • Oct 11 – Sources confirm that Katie and Kris are back together 
  • Nov 7 – Katie moved her belongings back into Kris' house.
  • Nov 10 – Katie seems to be back on good terms with Kris after she's pictured supporting him at a football match with daughter Princess.
  • Nov 11 – Katie posts memes on Instagram which suggest she wants to marry Kris. 
  • Nov 12 – In the first episode of her reality show My Crazy Life, Katie admits to cheating on Kris but says she doesn't regret it.
  • Nov 13 – Following the explosive one-off special, Katie was spotted filming the third series of her reality show My Crazy Life.
  • Dec 10 – The pair rekindled their relationship on the Christmas special of her reality show

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'Being shamed for eating a second slice of Christmas cake made my bulimia so bad I became suicidal'

IT HAD been a happy day celebrating the festivities when a throwaway remark over a second slice of Christmas cake by a relative triggered a whirlwind of anxiety

for 21-year-old Georgie Kelly that almost killed her.

At a Christmas party two years ago, a male member of the sociology graduate's extended family made a flippant joke about her weight.

“We always have a buffet and a dessert table. I was feeling a little better at the time and hadn’t made myself sick for a year, so I decided to enjoy two slices of Christmas cake.

“Clocking me, he said: ‘Georgie doesn’t need any more cake’. I had put a little bit of weight on since being better and all of my insecurities came flooding back. I made myself sick again as soon as the New Year hit and ‘diet season’ started.”

The thoughtless relative didn't know Georgie had been battling bulimia for the past eight years, which had caused her to self harm and even take a knife to bed with the intention of killing herself aged just 15.

He could have no idea that is casual remark would contribute to Georgie wanting to kill herself with a year.

Bulimia nervosa is a serious mental illness that sees at least 600,000 suffers in the UK trapped in a cycle of binge eating and then purging their bodies by vomiting or taking laxatives to avoid gaining weight.

It's most common among 15 to 24 year olds and half of people with eating disorders say they have considered killing themselves.

'I couldn't get out of bed for a month – I wanted to die'

Georgie was in her final year at the University of Worcester studying sociology when the cruel and thoughtless comment lodged at the front of her mind – and within months she hit crisis point.

“I was writing my dissertation and feeling really anxious, so I started making myself sick more and more. I felt so low that I didn’t get out of bed for a month,” she says.

She had been eating nothing but chicken salad for weeks when one night she couldn’t face eating even two small slices of cucumber.

“I would regularly think to myself, 'I just don’t want to be here anymore’ and I knew something was seriously wrong.”

It wasn’t the first time she’d been suicidal and recognising the signs, she phoned her mum sobbing and told her she wanted to kill herself and opened up about the eating disorder she’d kept secret for eight years.

Charity Time to Change recently revealed almost nine in 10 young people tell others they are “fine” despite suffering from a mental health problem, with the vast majority thinking they’ll be a burden if they share the truth.

'Mum was devastated and kept apologising'

Speaking to The Sun us as part of our You’re Not Alone suicide prevention campaign, Georgie says: “Being bulimic has made me suicidal at several points. That’s why it’s so important for me to let others know that those suffering from an eating disorder aren’t always dangerously thin.

“Being a ‘normal’ size doesn’t mean you are OK. You should always ask your friends or family if they’re alright if they start losing weight.”

YOU'RE NOT ALONE

It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers.

It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women.

Yet, it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now.

That is why The Sun has launched the You're Not Alone campaign. To remind anyone facing a tough time, grappling with mental illness or feeling like there's nowhere left to turn, that there is hope.

The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives.

Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others. You're Not Alone.

For a list of support services available, please see the Where To Get Help box below.

Georgie says her mum Raynar was completely devastated and really upset when she told her she was suicidal and about the eating disorder she'd kept secret for so long.

“She kept apologising for not noticing the signs but I told her I'd wanted it that way.”

Georgie’s bulimia started when she was 13. The typical teenager had developed a habit for standing in front of the mirror – trying on outfits and playing with make-up.

But staring at her reflection became a dangerous obsession.

'A boy shouted "Georgie, you're fat" – I'll never forget it'

Georgie started to compare herself to the “popular girls” at school and obsessed over how they could seemingly eat so much and stay so slim.

“I desperately wanted to be them but the popular boys would tease me.

"One of them shouted 'Georgie, you're fat' in the hallway at school and I’ve never been able to forget it.”

Standing in the mirror when she got home from school, she’d cry at her reflection.

“I would try to contort my body by pulling my legs together and twist my waist in ways to make myself look thinner,” she says.

Deciding she needed to lose weight, she began dieting and obsessively counting calories.

“I downloaded a calorie app and obsessively counted everything I ate – from the butter in my sandwiches to a single Tic Tac.”

She would lie to her mum about needing to complete homework so she could take her spaghetti bolognese to her bedroom, where she would give it to her dog or flush it down the toilet.

It was the evening she’d allowed herself to eat a chip shop dinner with her dad that she made herself sick for the first time.

“While I was eating, I felt I had treated myself and was in control. Then later that night I began Googling ‘how to lose weight fast’, ‘how to become a size six’, and eventually ‘how to make myself sick’.

“I went to the bathroom and threw up.”

'My throat would burn from throwing up but I couldn't stop'

The act made her feel in control for the first time in a long time, she says.

“At first I just retched but I felt like it was my mission, almost a challenge, to make myself sick.”

By 14, she was retreating to her bedroom every night after school and torturing herself with her reflection before making herself sick repeatedly.

“Every time I threw up, my throat would burn, I would cry and I felt so guilty. But I couldn’t stop,” she says.

“Looking back, I knew I wasn’t massive and just had a little bit of puppy fat but at the time it felt like the worst thing in the world,” she remembers.

She also felt that at a size 12, she wasn’t good enough even to be bulimic “properly”.

'I took a knife to my wrists and scratched my thighs til they bled'

She says, “I wanted to look like the pictures of girls in the magazines, when they were at the lowest point of their disorder.

“I know how horrible it sounds but I always felt like I didn’t deserve to have an eating disorder.

“I knew I was bulimic but I always wondered ‘would anyone believe me? I’m not thin enough’.”

As bulimia tightened its grip on her, Georgie started to self harm.

“My bulimia made me feel so worthless I used a knife on my wrists and covered the marks with my school blazer.

“I just wanted to feel the sharpness to block out my emotional pain. But I worried if I were to cut too deeply, the scars would just be another part of my body to loathe,” she says.

“So I’d also scratch my palms and thighs until they bled. The physical pain from hurting myself stopped the emotional pain.

“Sometimes I wouldn't even realise I had dug in my finger nails so deeply that I made myself bleed.”

At the age of 15 – the most common age for girls to be admitted to hospital with an eating disorder – Georgie became suicidal for the first time.

WHERE TO GET HELP

If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support:

  • Beat, www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk, 0808 801 0667
  • CALM, www.thecalmzone.net, 0800 585 858
  • Heads Together, www.headstogether.org.uk
  • Hector's House, www.hectorshouse.org.uk
  • Mind, www.mind.org.uk, 0300 123 3393
  • Papyrus, www.papyrus-uk.org, 0800 068 41 41
  • Samaritans, www.samaritans.org, 116 123

She felt so worthless at not being able to see her bones jutting through her skin that she took a knife to bed intent on killing herself.

“I told myself ‘tonight is the night’,” she says.

“I’d weighed myself and I’d put a tiny bit of weight on. It made me believe I was an embarrassment to my family and that they would be better without me.

“I told myself I was so pathetic because I couldn’t even manage my eating disorder properly and I felt worthless,” she says.

'I thought my family would be better off without me'

“I genuinely believed nobody would miss me and if I wasn’t here anymore, nobody would need to worry about me.”

So before she went to bed, she calmly and quietly walked into the kitchen and took a steak knife out of the drawer and took it to her room.

“It was only the thought of leaving my little brother Ethan, who was only five, and the rest of my family behind that stopped me going through with it.”

While her suicidal urges soon passed, Georgie's bulimia kept hold of her as she continued through school and she days the stress caused by taking GCSEs and A-Levels made her throw up more often – from approximately twice a week when she was feeling ok to every day when she was most anxious.

And by the time the school prom came around when she was 18, Georgie says she felt "so disgusted" by her appearance at that point she deleted "every single photo" from the event.
Georgie was only formally diagnosed with the disorder in May this year.

"Mum mum demanded I go and see a doctor, although I knew in my heart that that was what I needed, it was a huge weight off my shoulders to be told by somebody else. I was being taken care of and that was exactly what I needed."

She's now been to cognitive behavioural sessions and admits that although she now considers herself to be in recovery, she will always have to battle with bulimia and suicidal thoughts for the rest of her life.

But she’s hoping regular sessions with a counsellor specialising in eating disorders can help her stay on track.

She’s now living with her boyfriend of four years Elliott, a computer science student, at his parents’ house as the young couple save for a house together.

'Think twice before complimenting a Little Black Dress diet'

This Christmas, Georgie wants to spread awareness and has teamed up with charity Time to Change to urge us all to look out for signs something is wrong.

“Signs like losing a lot of weight and avoiding social situations like Christmas parties could mean someone is suffering from an eating disorder, and if your child is taking their meal upstairs, always ask them why,” she says.

And while it can be tempting to compliment the results of somebody’s ‘Little Black Dress’ diet – think twice.

“People need to understand that commenting on someone’s weight can be really dangerous.

“If you notice someone has lost weight, ask them how they are first, before you tell them they look amazing. I understand people lose weight for health reasons and to feel good, but there may be others who have made themselves very ill to reach their ‘goal’.”

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Arsenal want £10m deal for Fernando Calero as cut-price replacement for Rob Holding who is out for season

Unai Emery is desperate to strengthen his backline next month after Rob Holding was ruled out for the rest of the season after injuring himself last week in the draw at Manchester United.

Laurent Koscielny is still yet to appear for the first-team since rupturing his Achilles in May and fellow centre-half Konstantinos Mavropanos is also sidelined.

And that has led to Cadena Ser claiming the Gunners boss is eyeing a £10m swoop for the 23-year-old once the transfer window re-opens.

Calero has impressed for Valladolid this campaign in a defence that has conceded just 15 times in as many matches.

But Arsenal and Emery will face a fight for the ace after his performances also caught the eye of their European rivals.


Both La Liga outfit Sevilla and Bundesliga leaders Borussia Dortmund are also keen.

And they could be ready to pounce with the quoted £10m figure allegedly inserted into Calero’s contract as a release fee.


HIRED GUN Ospina 90 minutes from Euro glory.. and could’ve been Arsenal’s No3


Arsenal, who have been lining-up with a back three under Emery, are currently on a 21-match unbeaten run.

But Holding’s injury has forced right-back Stephan Lichsteiner to be used out of position.

Left-back Nacho Monreal is set to be asked to deputise against Southampton this weekend with both Sokratis and Shkodran Mustafi suspended for the trip to St Mary’s.

If Arsenal beat neighbours Tottenham in the Carabao Cup quarter-finals next week then Emery’s men will be battling on four fronts in 2019.

And that will heighten the pressure on transfer chief Sven Mislintat to provide reinforcements over before the end of next month.

PICK OF THE BUNCH – But who made it into Uefas all-time XI

UEFA have released their all-time XI — packed full of Barcelona and Real Madrid stars.

There are three Premier League icons in the list though with one Arsenal, one Liverpool and one Manchester United legend involved.

Between them, this lot have 33 Champions League winner's medals and plenty of other titles to boot.

But who were the eleven men who made it?

CLICK HERE TO FIND OUT.

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Open door for Australian Test team: Ball-tracker boss

The company responsible for ball-tracking technology in Australia has extended an open invite to Tim Paine and his frustrated teammates to review the reviews.

India put the decision review system (DRS) to good use in the first Test at Adelaide Oval, where they recorded a dramatic 31-run victory over Australia.

Virtual Eye boss Ian Taylor says he would like umpires to be specially trained in the DRS technology and third umpires allowed to overrule it.Credit:AAP

Nathan Lyon became just the second bowler in history to have three wickets overturned in a single Test innings.

The most grating for Australia was an lbw dismissal, when Cheteshwar Pujara was on 17 and ball-tracker suggested the Kookaburra would have bounced over the top of the stumps.

Lyon shook his head in disbelief. Pujara went on to score 71 and was named man of the match.

Lyon and Paine both admitted it was "frustrating," with the latter suggesting "a lot of balls seem to be going over the top … that live don't look like they are".

"Our door is open to any player, any captain, any official," Virtual Eye chief executive Ian Taylor said.

"Any issues they have, they are more than welcome to come down and they'll see views of it that you don't see on the big screen.

"We welcome the players. They just have to give us a call and our guys will show them everything.

"There will be times when it's bloody marginal. We might be proven wrong but we're not trying to hide anything."

Taylor wished the International Cricket Council (ICC) provided international umpires training in how the various technological tools function and that third umpires had the power to overrule a tight ball-tracking verdict.

The New Zealand entrepreneur suggested a slow-motion replay, from side of the wicket, helped convince a skeptical Shane Warne that the contentious Pujara verdict was correct.

"Even Shane Warne said 'that's a bit iffy, that would have taken the top' … then he took a look at the side-on angle and said 'I got that wrong, that's going over the top,'" Taylor said.

"We've got new slow-motion side-on cameras that Fox have brought in, they gave you a clearer indication."

Virtual Eye was initially designed purely to be part of TV coverage before the ICC decided it could help remove howlers from the sport.

But the responsibility for providing DRS services remains the domain of host broadcasters and firms like Virtual Eye and Hawk Eye.

Doubts about the accuracy of ball-tracking technology was partly why India refused to use DRS for eight years after it was rolled out by the ICC in 2008.

"I was always supportive of some of the concerns India had," Taylor said.

"I've always been a big fan of the third umpire having the power to overrule us … and I'd love if we had specially trained umpires who totally understood the technology."

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The Biggest Questions for Showtime's 'Billions' Heading Into Season 4

Chuck Rhoades’s maneuvering led to his downfall at the close of ‘Billions’ Season 3. | Showtime

In some ways, the end of Season Three of Showtime’s Billions was unthinkable. How could Chuck Rhoades, the U.S. attorney who entire existence seems based on the power of his office, proceed without a job? Yet shortly after his downfall, we find him sipping wine with his wife and former arch-nemesis Bobby Axelrod.

Rhoades, played by Paul Giamatti, seems awfully comfortablesharing a bottle with Axe at his table. The same can be said of Axelrod, played by Damian Lewis. After his hedge fund’s star employee launched a rival operation, Axe needed to regroup.

This setup leaves open so many possibilities for the show’s Season Four, which arrives in 2019 with at least one new cast member. Here are the biggest questions for the show and its characters ahead of the upcoming season.

1. Can Taylor Mason Capital succeed?

While Axe Capital has the name and track record, industry heavyweights recognized that Taylor (Asia Kate Dillon) ran the show while Bobby fought off the law. When the non-binary character set off on their own, several investors followed. That put winds at Taylor Mason Capital’s back in its opening days.

However, Taylor’s departure also happened to leave Axe (and Wendy Rhoades) enraged. Sure, Axe declined when Grigor Andolov (John Malkovich) asked if he wanted him to kill Taylor, but the new hedge fund risks plenty with its founder alive and well. We’ll see Taylor finds a way to run Axe’s gauntlet.

2. What will Axe’s fury entail?

At the close of Season Three, we learn Axe won’t go so far as to have a former employee killed. However, after a meeting with his attorney, we see he’s planning to sabotage Taylor in other ways (starting with a slew of court filings).

A big question for Season Three remains whether he can stay on the right side of the law. Of course, with Chuck Rhoades out at the Southern District, law-abiding may no longer be such a concern for Axe. But that raises another burning question.

3. What comes of the Axe-Chuck alliance?

An unlikely truce between Chuck and Axe opens up endless possibilities for ‘Billions’ Season 4. | Showtime

For fans who watched Chuck and Axe gleefully picturing each other’s demise for three seasons, the last episode of Billions must have been a little jarring. Already, we know Chuck can help Axe skirt the law in various ways. However, it’s unclear how Axe can help Chuck get revenge on Jock Jeffcoat.

Will Rhoades run afoul of the law again even as he may be plotting a run for governor? (At his last maneuver, the door remained open. Getting fired by Jock may actually be a feather in his cap in New York, depending on how everything shakes out.)

The audience was left with virtually no clue about Chuck’s future, other than the revenge he threatened. So there’s no telling where this unholy alliance will lead, but it’s one of the more compelling storylines for Billions writers to explore in Season Four.

4. Will Wendy Rhoades embrace the dark side?

Wendy Rhoades is the powerful yet nurturing force behind both Axe (her boss) and Chuck (her husband). However, late in Season Three, the audience got a glimpse of Wendy’s dark side. Snapping at Taylor during a parking lot was one thing; telling Axe to stamp out Taylor like a bug (in so many words) was even more shocking.

Watching characters harden after an excruciating battle can be entertaining television and a great challenge for a performer. We’ll see if the writers let Wendy (and Siff) continue down this path. It would add even more drama to a show that’s already brimming with it.

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Best horse racing tips for today's action at Southwell, Uttoxeter and Fontwell from Tom Bull

I took to the streets – with my butler in toe – and got most of my Christmas shopping done. But now my pockets are a bit emptier and could do with a few winners on Tuesday.

Southwell

2.20 Weld Al Emarat – Was backed off the boards before hosing up here last time out.

The handicapper has taken no chances with a 10lbs hike, but he's clearly a different animal on this surface and this race doesn't look any tougher.

The drop in trip won't be an issue and jockey Nathan Evans is back on steering duties.

Uttoxeter

1.30 Chef Des Obeaux – This is definitely the race of the day and I'm putting my trust in Nicky Henderson to have this chap ready for fences.

He was a promising hurdler – winning a Grade 2 – before finding it tough going at Cheltenham and Aintree.

But he won't be phased by the big field and a return to his early season form last year and he should have a huge chance in this.

Bully's Tuesday Bankers

2.20 Southwell – Weld Al Emarat
1.30 Uttoxeter – Chef Des Obeaux

1.10 Fontwell – The Ogle Gogle Man

Fontwell

1.10 The Ogle Gogle Man – This looks a good chance for Charlie Mann's novice to go one better than on his last two starts.

He's run well in decent races since and looks to have a race such as this in him off current weights.

Top jock Noel Fehily is an eye taking booking in the saddle and while the ground is a slight question mark, he has some previous form in the mud that offers some encouragement.

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