Where does everyone stand on New Years Resolutions? My usual rule is that I don’t make them, I have enough ways to disappointment myself, why add more? But this year I turn 50 so I decided to go big and made a bunch. I may have to add to my list, too, because after watching this interview with Carson Daly, I’m thinking about applying his resolution as well. In 2017, Carson lost both his mother and stepfather just five weeks apart. The loss was so great that Carson reevaluated how he lived his life and resolved this year to take it one day at a time – literally. He told Hota Kotb on Today that instead of eyeing the future for contentment, Carson compartmentalizes his time in 24 hours periods. Not only does he look for positive in the moment but constantly weighs how he can make that time the best it can be.
“I don’t want to get morbid, but you know I lost my parents a year and a half ago, so in the new year, I think more macro now,” Daly said. “I think bigger than just, like, the weight, the food — all that stuff is every day, we all struggle with that, we all do the best we can. My new thing is compartmentalizing.”
Daly said his family is first priority, always. The former Total Request Live host has been married to food blogger Sara Pinter since 2015 and the couple has three kids together — 9-year-old son Jackson James, 5-year-old daughter Etta Jones and 4-year-old daughter London Rose.
“My thing is just 24 hours,” he explained. “Now I wake up and I’m like, ‘Thank you God, I got a new day, a fresh day. How can I be the best husband, the best father, the best coworker, the best fellow citizen? I got today. I got right now, in this moment.’”
“Losing my folks, the fragility of life … it’s so crazy,” he continued. “I can’t believe I’m 45. I can’t believe I’ve been in Time Square for 20 years. I can’t believe I’m on the Today show.”
“Life goes by so fast that for me, now, it’s just like, live and marinate in that moment when I’m in a tickle fight,” he shared. “And then when I go to bed, it’s just like, ‘You know what? I hope I did good today and if God gives me another day, I’m just gonna do it again.’”
In truth, I doubt I would be able to do this, but I really like the idea. I mean, I live very much in the moment but I always have some future date to which I cling to get me through slumps and sadness. However, the sentiment is one I should adopt: don’t waste today by waiting for tomorrow. I also appreciate Carson’s idea of when you look back on your life, relish in all the things that have happened and not how long ago they took place.
Later in the segment (2:05 mark in the clip posted below), Hoda and Carson talked about Maria Shriver’s advice regarding embracing squabbling with loved ones. The point being made is little disagreements not only release pressure that might erupt into a larger fight, but also that healing begins the moment the pain is released. According to Hoda, Maria said ”Don’t fear the rupture in a relationship, don’t fear the argument.” I intend to make this my mantra this year and apply it to all my relationships. Oh, look at that, another resolution.
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